24 Sep Online Dating Tips – Improve Your Profile
I reckon your profile is rubbish. Whether you are a seasoned online dater or just starting out on your first dating app or site, chances are you have not optimised your profile.
As a result you are likely to match with people who are not compatible with you, or only get responses from people who are not what you are looking for. If you feel that there are no decent singles out there, or that online dating is full of losers, then you need to change your profile.
The top mistakes people make when creating their profile is sub-par photos, lazy bios (if any at all), boring lists and an unclear presentation of themselves. You will know it yourself, scrolling through loads of profiles, they start to merge into same-same, you can barely tell the difference between them. Swiping becomes mechanical and unengaging.
Who am I? Psychologist Madeleine Mason Roantree, dating and relationship specialist. Not only did I meet my husband online, I have had success getting singles into relationships simply by changing their online dating profile.
Here are my top tips to improving your dating profile:
- Ensure your main photo is a RECENT headshot of you SMILING – in focus and with good lighting.
- Have one photo of you doing something that is important to you, whether that be running, surfing, knitting or going to church. Yes, I know, you either don’t have that or the ones you have are of poor quality. Next time you are out, get a friend to take a snap of you ‘in action’. You don’t have to stand looking like a lemon at the camera.
- Have one full length body photo.
- Don’t have friends in any of your photos (and don’t crop them out either). You don’t want people to wonder which one is you, and you certainly don’t want people to think it’s an ex that has been cropped out. It’s a psychological thing.
- Write sentences in you bio that give some idea of your lifestyle. For example ‘I enjoy my Monday evening pilates class’ or ‘I am really looking forward to watching the next Marvel movie’.
- Be clear about what you are looking for in dating. If you are looking for a serious relationship, say so (and avoid using the word fun). If it’s more casual, then say that and definitely include the word fun!
Your aim to to make your profile stand out and a ‘delight’ to engage in. If your profile is easy to read, gives a pleasant experience (as in, I don’t have to think to hard about whether this person is genuine, actually single or sincere), you have already won over the bland masses. If you want a serious relationship, all you need is one person. Having loads of matches is not the way forward. You want quality matches, followed by quality dates; and of course ultimately your ideal partner.
Make those changes today and get the most out of online dating.
Otherwise come and see me!!