10 Mar Never Judge A Book By Its Cover…
Never Judge A Book By Its Cover…
They say you should “never judge a book by its cover…”
They also say “what you see is what you get…!”
So which is true?
Whilst we all want to believe we can rise above the ’judgmental’ attitudes of the former, the reality is we function in the latter.
It comes down to instinct. Primal instinct. An instinct that has been embedded in our brains quite literally since the dawn of time, and an idealistic phrase attempting to tell us not to be so instinctive is not going to change that anytime soon.
Our Amygdala, aka the ‘Reptilian Brain’, is solely responsible for our fight, flight or freeze response. Obviously, we don’t live in prehistoric times when we needed to worry about Sabre Tooth Kitty Cats chasing us around the front room, but we are still hardwired to avoid any potential threat we see.
And that extends to our fellow humans.
We are essentially looking for clues as to who the person in front of us is. Do they look ‘safe’? Do they look fun? Clean, tidy, healthy… will they ‘fit’ into our life? Can I take him/ her home to meet Ma and Pa? Will my friends like him/ her? Or is this just a one night kinda ’situation’?
All these ‘assumptions’ are made in under 1 second… actually 1/10th of a second.
You are looking at this person to establish if you share the same values. If not, you move along pretty quickly, regardless of whether that person is potentially the right one for you. You’ll never know unless you are compelled to try!
All of this is done using the ONLY facts we have at our disposal in 1/10th of a second – VISUALS.
Before you’ve even had the chance to open your mouth and say something flirty, profound or witty, your clothes have already ‘spoken’ for you.
In the words of LA Celebrity Stylist Rachel Zoe,
“clothes are a way of saying who you are without having to speak”.
So if you think your appearance DOESN’T matter, you’re arguing with evolution/nature and leaving an insane amount of opportunity on the table! Don’t let the potential love of your life pass you by, just because you didn’t make the effort to let them know you exist.
After all, you don’t get a second chance to make a first impression…